I learned of the death of college student Carly Henley two days after her passing, on October 6, 2010. In the days soon to follow it became clear that scores and scores of people were wounded to the core by the loss. Wonderful evidence around the internet serves to almost suspend Carly Henley's personable allure, her impressive musical talent, and a short life the likes of which most anybody could envy.

Various reports tell of her short term struggle with depression of perhaps three months in duration. Significant in that was the introduction of anti-depressant drug Zoloft via prescription some two weeks before Carly took her own life.

Not lost on me now, finally, is the wording in the "Black Box Warning" with Zoloft, which states that antidepressants may increase the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior in persons younger than 25. Risk is especially heightened during the first two months of taking anti-depressants.

The labels on anti-depressant drugs in the U.S. were altered to reference young adults aged 18 to 24 just three years earlier - in 2007.

It is my belief, now, that Carly just happened to land among the small percentage of anti-depressant users who are susceptible to being so affected by a powerful drug such as Zoloft.

One need not ever have known such a remarkable woman to feel the pain all around at the loss of Carly Henley.


So many life lessons are so well represented by Carly Henley's compelling spirit. Let me see if I can help some to gain fuller appreciation for a woman who continues to inspire everyone who ever knew of her.



Carly Henley loved the rain (lyrics, etc.)

I hadn't noticed these lyrics until recently, or perhaps I could have included them with the lyrics linked on the main page of this blog.


"Rain"   by Carly Henley

                                    *** here is the CD version, as performed by cousin Tess Henley

The fresh smell of earth falling from the sky
Little drops of heaven that come from angels eyes
The sweetness brings me to my knees
Feel it on my skin and I am free

All the things I love about the rain
It just makes another perfect day
Soothes me heart, my soul, everything
I can't do anything else but sing

I love the rain

As it falls down on my face
I feel brand new the old leaves no trace
It washes all that needs to be swept away
And sets the trees off in an easy sway

All the things I love about the rain
It just makes another perfect day
Soothes me heart, my soul, everything
I can't do anything else but sing

I love the rain


I love the rain

Whats the gripe about
Imagine life without
This precious gift of rain
It would not be the same

All the things I love about the rain
It just makes another perfect day
Soothes me heart, my soul, everything
I can't do anything else but sing

I love the rain


I love the rain




It has been just over six months since Carly's passing and I hope that her close friends and family have established the very best ways in which they want to remember their cherished angel.  It remains so unique that somebody can seem so "right there!" in front of the world, on YouTube, even after she's gone. 

I find myself so often drawn to listen to the assorted songs and performances Carly left on YouTube, yet I can barely even imagine what it might have been like to count her as an acquaintance, a friend, a sibling, or a child. 

 Everybody is quick to identify Carly's fortunate physical beauty.  When viewing her various performances on YouTube, that exceptional appearance prevents your mind from challenging itself to find flaws, as we tend to do with most others.  Once at that point, and perhaps as a product of her rare exterior, the mind is free to breathe-in Carly Henley's spirit and the perceived depth and vulnerability which seems so prominent now. 

Maybe she was a collection of blessings all brought together to afford quite the balanced sum of personal experiences.  It is clear from the outpouring of sorrow from all over during the past six months that Carly Henley touched thousands of lives during her brief time on this earth.  Outside of career evolution and motherhood I don't know how much more she could have needed to be... (aside from merely existing as the friend/child/sibling/cousin we'd all like to take for granted)

Evaluating from afar, it is difficult to look back at Carly's life and see anything that was lacking.  She had a comfortable upbringing, an adoring sister, admiring classmates, and the will to boldly play her music in front of various audiences.  Carly Henley got to know various high school accolades not plentiful enough for everyone.  She managed to remain impressively humble through it all, which in turn tended to draw others to her even moreso.

The young woman's college experiences found her engaging campus life, which she juggled with things like "photo shoots" and a considerable representation of the in crowd.  Of course it is universally disappointing that Carly Henley left this earth so soon, but if the world around her could somehow put aside the urge to measure and know her future potential, then it might be safe to opine that Carly Henley really got to live "THE Life" (thanks in largest part to all of those who surrounded her).


She loved the rain...



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